Ah wellSo that's about zero help to your inital post Michele. Sorry for the hijack.
About 3 years ago I got so pissed with xmas present shopping that I told all family that from that point forward they would recieve a donation to charity as their gift.
In my view too much is being spent, too much stress is caused by searching for 'ideal' gifts, and there are far more worthy recipients of our dough than ourselves.